Monday Matters | Back from London & New Job

Where have I been? I have been MIA and for good reason!

After the DaisyBeauty Expo, I took a long weekend in London on the 19th until yesterday evening. A bit of a spontaneous trip and well worth it. Here you can see just a few of the sights I walked around the city to see. I ate good comfort food (KFC, Dominos, Chipotle… you know, what we don’t have in Sweden haha!), went shopping (primark was a must… a few times…) and just spent time outdoors and creating blisters on my feet. Perfect long weekend.

London trip

As you may have seen, the blog has been quiet lately and it has just been because I have been trying to take some me time and try to gather my energy after this weirdly started year. Just a few days after being laid off, I was given the opportunity to start working with Daisy Beauty Magazine which I started today and I am very thankful and excited for the opportunity.

It has been a very rough January and I believe things are looking up. I did realize that though I have gone through so much worse and after getting a pretty hard beating this time around, I really needed to take the time off and get back from just being able to keep my head above water to being able to breathe again.

I hope you all understand! I promise after getting settled into the new job that I would be back to regular reviews, looks and all that wonderful stuff. I do have a lot to share.

Much Love, Jasmine

 

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Monday Matters: The Reset Button

Welcome to another Monday Matters! Today we’ll be discussing the Reset Button.

The what? Yes. The Reset Button. The exact button  I pressed last week! Much of our day to day is all about routines to follow, going to work, going to the gym (ok, I will sooner or later!), having breakfast, lunch, dinner… There’s quite a bit that comes in that routine such as mental and physical weights of well. stuff. I talk quite a bit from my own experience as for those who know me, I am intense. To the point that I find doing things as relaxing.  I work fulltime, I study fulltime, I blog fulltime and of course I’ve got renovations, my loss of job (so job searching), and so on and so forth. I multi-task like there is no tomorrow and even when I am suppose to be resting during, for example, a flu, I’m up and organizing, cleaning or just doing something.

What happens when allt this stuff: worry, stress, anxiety, what it now could be, gets backed up? We get unbalanced. We start taking it out on other people. We get tired. My answer. The Reset Button! Ok, I do wish I had one of those physical red buttons to press and voilà! but I’m talking more metaphorically. I noticed that I sometimes say out loud “I can’t do this anymore” or “I need to go away” and not really knowing what “this” is or where I needed to go away to. The reset button is so important for well-being because it is when I start saying these things that I realize I am just that much closer to an unnecessary meltdown.

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Here are 3 super simple tips to help you press that mental Reset Button!

1. Weekly Intentions – Adjust your Goals

I’m a lister. I list everything and I love organization. But it gets to a point where you can just do so much and that is ok! If you are feeling that your to do list is longer than your can do list, cut it down. Prioritize! I divide my lists in 2. The stuff I must do, the stuff I’d love to get done. From there I choose 3 of each. 3 to accomplish daily and 3 within the week/month.

2. Quiet Time!

I’ve recently been taking 15 minutes of my day to just sit and clean out my thoughts. Meditation of some sort. By giving yourself the time, you can gain more energy to reset. This also helps with point 1 by the way. By cleaning out the extra stuff, you will be able to see what’s most important to you.

3. Make YOU happy & Say No.

I cannot for the life of me say no! It’s so hard especially when I know that I have the ability to do whatever it is but you need to put yourself first sometimes and that also includes saying no. If you can’t deal with whatever it is, don’t. Take a step back if you need to. I personally have gotten to a point where I remove myself from the situation completely and travel instead. Even if it’s just another city or a country all together. Getting away makes me happy and helps me recharge and reset but if you don’t have the opportunity to travel there are other ways too! Get energy from friends? Go see them! Feel happier going to the movies alone? Then do that instead! Do you get lost in books? Read one! Get lost in music? Listen to your favorite tracks.

Just get away from the “stuff” and back to that balanced YOU.

Do you feel that you wish you had a physical reset button? What do you do when you need to reset life?

 

 

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Monday Matters: The Art of Bouncing Back

You wanted more personal posts so I created Monday Matters! Every monday I will try to talk about everything under the sun that matters. Today’s topic is the Art of Boucning Back.

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It took a day for me to write this post, hence why it’s going up on a Tuesday but I needed the time to process and to forumlate my words correctly. I had an extremely tough day yesterday.  I personally don’t take advice from people who just don’t understand as they have not been there but let me share my experiences and I hope that maybe you’d be able to share yours and we can be a support system for each other dispite differences.

I started my year by being laid off work. Is this a taboo subject?

Just a few months ago I was so excited to embark on a new career as an Online Sales Manager and though I had a bit of a learning curve to tackle, I felt I was able to accomplish quite a bit in such a short time. Unfortunately the company could not keep me due to some restructuring and I have a two week notice. Not even. Panic mode. Sitting in my new boss’ office, trying to be strong then realizing that I’m a crier. So be it. She offered the rest of the day and the morning after and I took it.

I’ve never been laid off before nor knew how to process it. I don’t have to stay the two weeks if I don’t want to. It didn’t matter. I couldn’t stop the tears and disappointment in myself. The sympathy I don’t want from my coworkers. The shame I felt for leaving such an amazing job, with amazing coworkers and a good salary for this job. The failure I am for not being good enough for them to want to keep me.

Ok. So. normal right? Who wouldn’t feel that way?

In hindsight, I wasn’t surprised. I think my position was created just for the website project. Projects are between 3 months to a year. I had a feeling that it was coming. I think I wanted the job and maybe more time. Time to have found another job. Time to have accomplished more. Time to have showed them I was worth keeping.

I named this Monday Matters “The art of bouncing back” because, though I found out yesterday, I haven’t been more clear and wanted to share what I did to get over the initial shock.

  • Take Time. Taking the day and the morning after was the best thing I could have done for my sanity.
  • If you’re the strong type, asking for help is not the easiest. Finding out who you can put your trust in and knowing they’d be there even if you’re not perfect is not easy but you need to put yourself out there.
  • I have always been good at not sharing much of my internal struggle and finding the ones who were able to see right through it is what got me through the past few hours.
  • Even though I’m still hurting, the general rule of “fake it till you make it” applies true. By plastering that smile and responding, I’m able to feel like myself.

Bounce Back!

  • I woke up this morning with a determination and clearness to just be grateful. I’m still very sad but being grateful for the next breath of air, for the sun being out today, for the boyfriend who held me all night till I stopped crying.
  • I meditated. It’s been years since. I again, took time. Time to stop myself from destructing. Realizing that I cannot control the happenings around me but I could control how I’m reacting to them.
  • I then started writing this post. Theraputic and hopefully helpful as well.

Now what?

Well. Life goes on. I’m putting this out there and maybe one of you has been in a similar situation.
Share your experiences, leave some advice. Let me know your thoughts on my new Monday Matters theme!

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